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How To Stop Feeling Underappreciated and Unseen

in Relationships, Spiritual Growth on 05/10/18

James and I were sitting in a meeting going over a giant to-do list that ourselves and others were handling for a non-profit. We shared everything we had completed for upcoming events, social media, fundraising etc. When we were done sharing everything we did, it was everyone else’s turn to share what they completed. The room fell silent. Once again, James and I were the only ones to complete the tasks assigned to us. As frustrating as it was, we were patient and extending grace. We never brought up how every time something needed done we were the only ones completing our tasks.

Fast forward a few meetings and James and I were sitting there once again with our completed tasks while the rest of the room fell silent. One person spoke up and said the ministry will start heading in a new direction and they reassigned everyone to new responsibilities. While this was happening I watched everything that James and I oversaw be taken away from us and given to everyone else. We were the only two in the room with zero responsibilities. The two who always got everything done was suddenly left with nothing. I wanted to cry. I spent countless hours and years working so hard and in a moment it was all taken away, unjustly.

In the car ride home I was telling James how sad I was. How all the work we’ve done has gone unnoticed. How all the money we raised for events were not appreciated. We were never told thanks and now they want to give all the work to everyone else but us? It didn’t make sense.

At that moment I felt underappreciated and not seen. To be totally honest, all I wanted to do was stand up and shout everything we have successfully done and all the ways they were failing. That we were not the problem. I wanted to be seen.

Colossians 3:23-24 says, “Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ.”

I’m sure you can relate. Whether you’re a mother who is spending your days working hard to maintain your home and no one notices. Or you’re often passed up in the workplace and aren’t given a chance to really show your capabilities. Or you’re overworking yourself for people who don’t see your sweat and tears. Surely, there are times we need to reevaluate whether it’s a healthy work environment but we can’t leave something every time we’re not seen and appreciated.

Isaiah 42:8 says, “I am the Lord that is my name and I will not give my glory to another.”

This verse is speaking directly about idols but God says He won’t share His glory with anyone… including me and you. If you’re too busy worrying about how much you’re underappreciated and your accomplishments are going unnoticed, then it could mean you may be trying to hog some of the glory.

When you’re in those moments of feeling unseen you can start to wonder your worth. You question if you’re talented enough, good enough, or even qualified. You can start to feel stuck and believe you will always be overlooked so you don’t even try anymore.

Don’t lie down and give up. Don’t stop working hard because others are so focused on their own work they can’t see what’s right in front of them. Don’t stop using the gifts and talents God has blessed you with because others don’t see their worth.

So while others struggle seeing your value and appreciating your hard work- remember who you are working for and how valued you are to Him. 

Luke 12:7 says, “Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.”

Even though I wanted to shout from the rooftops my worth, I didn’t. I had to remember that my work is for the Lord and Him alone. And to be open and honest, it was hard at the time. The last thing I wanted to do was allow all my hard work go to the wayside. But I knew that God didn’t want me to respond out of hurt or frustration.

So, what did James and I do? We offered our blessing to the ministry and continued on the path that God has for us. We refocused our eyes and hearts and have learned to show appreciation to others when they work hard and have the heart to see those who feel unseen.

While it’s hard and incredibly frustrating to be in these situations find peace and comfort knowing that Christ sees you and your work and those are the only eyes that matter.

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  1. Heather says

    May 10, 2018 at 3:15 pm

    I have so been there. Looking back, I think God took those things away from me because He either wanted me to refocus my efforts, or He knew I was too attached to the projects and no longer doing them for Him. I’ve been in both places, neither one makes it easy to let go, but it does help me to grow.

    Reply
    • Heather says

      May 10, 2018 at 3:55 pm

      Great points, Heather. There are always lessons to learn when God takes things away. I often see it as protection from ourselves and there is a lot to learn from that.

      Reply
  2. Emily | To Unearth says

    May 10, 2018 at 3:25 pm

    This was really humbling to read! I find myself so frustrated when I put hours upon hours into my website, only for people – my own family included – don’t say a word to me about it. It makes me wonder if my family even supports me at all! (aside from my husband – he’s wonderful!) So reading your words here brought some much-needed conviction for me!

    Reply
    • Heather says

      May 10, 2018 at 3:54 pm

      Hi Emily, I know exactly what you mean. My husband is insanely supportive and reads everything- I have friends, acquaintances, and strangers reaching out after reading- but with my family, it can be crickets. I know my family supports me in the sense they want me to be successful and want good for me. But some of them are not invested in what I am doing and it took a while for me to realize that that’s ok.

      Reply
  3. Deana says

    May 10, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    Thank you for this! I find myself in a season of invisibility in a different context, but I can still value the reminder that who we are and nothing we do goes unnoticed by the Father who loves us. <3

    Reply
  4. MJ says

    May 10, 2018 at 6:12 pm

    Absolutely love this! It’s awesome that the Lord helped you refocus to reach out to those types of people who often go forgotten about or under appreciated. I think it’s something we all can work on. Thanks for this!

    Reply
  5. Cilla says

    May 10, 2018 at 7:04 pm

    I sooo needed to read this…have been pondering my involvement and hard work in a veggie garden at a local farm school and feeling very unappreciated. Your writing has made me realise that it’s not about me or my effort. It’s all about Jesus. God bless your ministry through the written word

    Reply
    • Heather says

      May 11, 2018 at 11:16 am

      Thank you, Cilla for sharing that with us. It’s such a blessing to hear how God uses these posts. Blessings over you and your work!

      Reply
  6. Julie says

    May 10, 2018 at 9:05 pm

    Thank you, Heather, for this post! I think we all have experienced these feelings before.
    I love the reminder of remembering God is watching and values us!

    Reply

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I remember coming home and sitting on my bed with my new Bible in my hand. I sat there thinking of everything I was told that night and how it reminded me of everything I was taught when I was a little girl. ••••
After sitting there for awhile, I prayed for the very first time. Out loud I said, “OK God, if you are who they say you are, then why would you send your son to die for me, why wouldn’t you just die for me?”
••••
Immediately, and when I say immediately I truly mean with no hesitation a thought came into my mind. I heard, “Doesn’t a parent love their child so much that they would die for them? I love you so much more then that, that I would allow my child to die for YOU.”
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I knew the thought that had entered my mind was not from me. I knew it was God speaking directly to me. Since that day, I’ve followed Jesus, learning more about Him, and have dedicated my life to sharing about eternal life through Christ and all the goodness He is. ••••
The world will tell you religion is all about rules and what not to do. Can I personally tell you, that is not true. Following Jesus has given me freedom to truly live. I GET to do things because of Jesus. ••••
I get to love others because Jesus taught me how to love. 
I get to give to others because Jesus has given so much to me. 
I get to truly forgive because Jesus forgave me. 
I get to heal from the hurts life has thrown at me because Jesus has healed me. 
I get to live a life full of JOY because joy comes from Jesus! 
And sooo much more! ••••
My prayer for you is to passionately serve Jesus, have eternal life through Him, and to truly experience what is feels to live a life of freedom.
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I spent a semester in Israel during my college yea I spent a semester in Israel during my college years @seuniversity. It was two months after James and I got married so, our first few months as a married couple were spent walking the same streets of Jesus. To say it was a cool experience would be an understatement. •••••••
During my time in Israel there were two moments that took my breath away. One of those moments was being in the literally prison hole that Jesus stayed in the night before He died. •••••••
Historical sites are given a grading scale. An A site is “this is for sure the site that XYZ took place.” An B site is “XYZ took place here OR there” And a C site is “XYZ took place somewhere in this region.” •••••••
Jesus holding cell is an A site. •••••••
I stood in the prison with my fellow students and professor and his family. We sang the hymn - “I Have Decided To Follow Jesus.” It was the only time there I wept like a baby. Snot and all haha! •••••••
But man, to be where your savior was knowing what was to come and He chose to do it anyways. I’ve never felt more love in that moment then I have in my entire life. ••••••••
So today, my prayer is for you to feel that same love. To know Jesus died today for YOU and that He came back for YOU! You are His chosen child. •
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I don’t believe we will ever be in a time like t I don’t believe we will ever be in a time like this again; where we’re forced to stay home, have no schedule, and simply enjoy each other. •
•

My heart is with all those who are working in the medical field and all the families affected by COVID-19. We lost my uncle this morning to this horrible virus. I’ve been praying for my family and yours and will continue to do so. •
•

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•
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I posted last night how I would be sharing with yo I posted last night how I would be sharing with you today what the beginning of 2020 held for my family which caused me to take a pause on writing. •
•

In January we lost my sweet mother-in-law very suddenly. It was a shock to us all and has taken us a bit to wrap our minds around. •
•

In addition to the loss of my mother-in-law, we’ve been navigating some health struggles. Now, with everything going on in our world, I can say it’s def been a year so far. •
•

But, God is good. If it’s not good- then it doesn’t come from God. The enemy is very real but nothing to fear because our God is bigger. •
•

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•
LINK IN BIO
Hi, friend. I know it’s been awhile and I have Hi, friend. 
I know it’s been awhile and I have a post going up tomorrow that explains what the beginning of 2020 has held for myself and my family. 
But, I wanted to get one here tonight to share something that has been on my heart. 
You cannot turn on the TV or pick up your phone without the word “COVID-19” blaring at you. While it’s wise to be informed, these are times many can become anxious, full of fear, and worry. 
Friend, this is our time. And what I mean by that, it’s the Church body’s time. It’s our time to rise up and praise the name of Jesus louder then any other name or word. 
Can I remind you that Jesus conquered every sickness and disease! 
Every. Single. One. 
When He died on that cross. 
And He rose again. 
There are a lot of different beliefs on healing, authority, and what role it plays in our life today. I want to encourage you to seek Jesus through His word and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you to His truth. 
When you find yourself reading this, do me a favor and pause. Look up Psalm 91. Read it, listen to it on repeat on the Bible app, and dwell in the presence of God. 
And then, wake up tomorrow knowing you are a child of the most high King- who rescues you from every attack of the enemy, who protects you from deadly diseases, who is covering you with His feathers and providing you shelter. 
I love you, friend. I’m praying for you.
It's 2020 and with a New Year comes a new FREEBIE! It's 2020 and with a New Year comes a new FREEBIE!
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•
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As a THANK YOU for being here AND being an email subscriber you will receive Loving The Life You Live E-Book with a printable Manifesto for FREE!
•
•
•
I've spent the past few months writing on 9 simple truths to knowing who you are in Christ. •
•
•
If you’ve been a follower of Jesus for some time, my hope is this book will be a reminder of God’s truth on who He says you are in His eyes. •
•
•
If you're new in your relationship with Christ or are still trying to figure it out and need a little more guidance on finding out who you’re  created to be, this book will be perfect for you. •
•
•
I pray this mini e-book will be an encouragement to your heart and for it to be a tool you use while you share the truths of Jesus with those around you. •
•
•
If you’re already subscribed, check your inbox!
•
•
•
If you're not a subscriber, click the LINK IN BIO and enter your email address.
Everyone is sharing their top 9 photos from 2019 b Everyone is sharing their top 9 photos from 2019 but I’m going to share my number one photo for this year. This photo represents an answer to prayer in my life and reminds me of the love and faithfulness of my Savior. •
•
•

My family and I just got back from spending a week in South Carolina for Christmas with my parents. •
•
•

Today was a day full of unpacking, cleaning, grocery shopping, and getting back into our normal routine. •
•
•

But, this morning while everyone slept I spent time praying and drinking some coffee. I have so many ideas, goals, and big dreams for my blog and this ministry. •
•
•

I thought about my reader who has used my blog posts to build a women’s ministry curriculum for her neighboring village in western part of Kenya. •
•
•

I thought about my reader in Papua New Guinea who is new in her faith walk and a simple google search looking for more of God’s word led her to my site. •
•
•

I thought about my reader who leads her local church with her husband here is the USA and was looking for a fellow female Christian to connect with and have a space to talk about things she can’t with those around her. •
•
•

I thought about my reader who was diagnosed with a life altering illness and found my site while searching for scripture on healing. •
•
•

I thought about you. The one who has visited and read time and time again. Who has listened while I shared from the deep parts of my heart on the struggles, the wins, the rejections, and the answered prayers of my life. Who has sent encouraging messages, shared feelings, and prayers. Who has in turn opened up to me and shared from the depths of their heart. •
•
•

As you know, I refer to my readers as ‘friend’ and that’s because a friend shows up, listens, encourages, shares, and prays. So, thank you. Thank you for being a friend. 
I’m looking forward to this new year with you as I share more of what God continues to lay on my heart. I’ll continue to look forward to hear from you as we do this journey of life together. •
•
•

Love you friend.
Hi, friend. • • • I’ve been taking things Hi, friend. •
•
•
I’ve been taking things slow over here to enjoy as much of this baby season as humanly possible. Getting to hold and kiss Colton everyday, all day long is a huge blessing I don’t want to take for granted. •
•
•
Because of that, my writing and speaking have been moving slower. I’ve had moments where I’ve shared with James the tug and pull I feel everyday, each week. There’s so many things I want to be doing, creating, sharing but I have to pick and choose right now. •
•
•
Tonight, I was feeding Colton before putting him to bed. When he was done with his bottle I sat it down but kept holding him while finishing a tv show. I heard him cooing and I look down and this precious face was staring up at me with the sweetest smile. •
•
•
Pure joy and love on his face. •
•
•
Friend, here’s your friendly reminder to keep on praying and believing that God has already won the battle, flattened the mountain, and straightened your path. •
•
•
After 2 and 1/2 years of barrenness and praying for this beautiful baby, my Heavenly Father so lovingly answered my prayer with the sweetest boy. •
•
•
I feel closer to Jesus because I pressed into Him during my waiting season and I want the same for you. •
•
•
Press in. •
•
•
And when your prayer is answered: enjoy. every. part. of. it. •
•
•
Even if that means other things need to move slower. •
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•
Love you, friend. ❤️
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