Proverbs 27:9 says, “Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.”
One Sunday night James and I were about to sit down to watch one of our favorite TV shows. As the show started my cousin walked into the room. His phone was to his ear and he had a look on his face that was telling me something was very wrong. My aunt was on the other end crying telling us our grandfather had fallen and passed away.
We started rushing out of the house to meet up with the rest of the family. It was late and Chase was already sleeping so I called one of my best friends. I was crying and asked if I could drop Chase off. She said “Absolutely!” and within five minutes we were at her front door. She hugged me while I cried and said to take all the time we need.
Her friendship offered support and comfort during a sad and difficult time.
A few years ago, I given the opportunity to write about my experience with adoption for a Canadian magazine. They asked if I had a blog or any links they could share with their readers. I called a friend to share with her this exciting opportunity and how I always wanted to write. I asked if it was OK that I didn’t have a blog or any links. She immediately responded with, “Say yes. We’ll figure out the rest later.”
Shortly after that conversation, the same friend showed me a website she built for me. She started educating me on blogging and pointing me in the direction of other experts to learn from. She also designed my first book and continues to work COUNTLESS hours because she believes in me.
Her friendships was a vital piece of my big dream. She continues to walk alongside me and encouraging the calling she has seen on my life.
As a wife, mother, and business owner I’m tempted to cut friendships from my life when life becomes busy.
I’m sure you can relate.
Perhaps you’re not a mother but you’re a student swamped with school work. Or, your career is demanding so you feel you don’t have much to give to friendships.
Whatever it is that is causing you to hold you back from dedicating time to friendships, please know- I understand. I’ve been there. But, I’ve also been on the other side and the grass really is greener over here.
These two stories are only two of many times where friends have given their support. I chose these examples because one reflects a friend who gave their support during a crisis and another who helped make my dream become a reality. Had I not invested in these friendships, I wouldn’t be blessed by their comfort and generosity. Also, I wouldn’t have had opportunities myself to invest in them.
Maybe you don’t see the value in friendships.
Maybe you’ve been hurt by friends in the past and are cautioned to make new ones.
Maybe you’ve found yourself in need of friendships and aren’t sure how to have genuine friends in your life.
Or, maybe you have wonderful friends and have similar stories of support. So, you want to encourage others to invest the time since you’ve seen the value.
If any of these are you, I want to personally invite you to an amazing project I’ve been working on.
The Friends on Purpose Project
It’s a 28 day Facebook group designed to inspire, encourage, and challenge you to make in-person friendships. Your guides will be nine incredible women – writers, activists, and business owners – who are passionate about community.
We’re starting on Friday, April 6th and we hope to see you there! If you’d like to join The Friends on Purpose Project, click Here.
This project will feature amazing women, tools to engage with others, encouragement as you seek new friendships or deepen the ones you have, and there will be lots of amazing giveaways.
As a special bonus, when you join Friends on Purpose Project you will receive a FREE monthly printable calendar!
Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.”
To have good friends, first one had to be a friend…
I love this initiative and one of my biggest regrets losing touch with some old friends. Now I try to make a habit of reaching out and being there for them but there is still a long way for me to go.
Thank you for sharing, Scott. I too have regretted losing touch with friends from my past. I’ve used that as a tool of encouragement to engage with my present friends to prevent losing touch with them.
Adri Hernandez says
Ahh, I love this! I can’t wait for this project to start!
Lindsey Zitzmann says
I love this idea, Heather! I think with the onset of social media we have lost the value in face to face relationships. Heading to join your group now….
You’re so right. Social media has got in the way of real life friendships for some. Looking forward for you to join 🙂
Love this! Friendships are very important!
We can’t do the christian life alone, we need friends. ????
Keisha Russell says
Can I scream “AMEN” from the rooftops? I loved everything that you have written! Every word is relatable and full of truth!
Yes, you may! haha Hope you signed up for the Friends On Purpose Project! We could use your enthusiasm.
Emily | To Unearth says
I’ve been learning the beauty of friendships from being in a season where my friends were far away/busy, causing me to lean on God more and more. But He’s now blessed me with new friends, and it’s truly an amazing encouragement in my life!
How amazing! I’m blessed to hear how God has brought friendships into your life.
We can find ways to be too busy to think we don’t need friends but we do. Pinned this!
You’re so right!
Authentic friendships are important especially when we become moms and wives. It’s nice to have relationships where we can encourage and support our friends!
I definitely get caught in seasons of focusing on work and other things and don’t invest in friendships. It is an area that has been on my heart more lately. The friendship project sounds like a great opportunity!
Yeah, I think those seasons can be common. For part of last year, I was so busy with finalizing an adoption and work that my friendships weren’t at the top of my list. I didn’t neglect them but I def. took a step back. Sometimes seasons of life requires us to do that.
Such a great read and a timely reminder to be fully invested in whatever season the Lord has us in.