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Toxic Behaviors In A Friendship: What To Look Out For And How To Handle It

in Relationships on 02/18/21

One Saturday evening, I walked into my living room holding a tray of snacks for a room full of women. Some I had been friends with for years while others were newer relationships. When I stepped into my living room someone I considered a close friend made a jab at me. It was unprompted and caught me off guard. Everyone in the room got quiet and stared at me waiting for a response. 

I combated it by brushing it off with a quick joke and left the room to grab the drinks. As I walked into my kitchen I stood there paused wondering why that friend said what they said. Were they truly joking around because I can take a joke, or were they trying to embarrass me? I dismissed it and went back into hosting mode and continued on with the evening.

There are toxic traits in friendships that are easy to pinpoint. You can see when gossip is present, you’re quick to feel the feelings of being used, or when you’re the driving force of the friendship. However, there are toxic behaviors often overlooked. They’re not identified as easily and if you’re not careful, you can find yourself in a friendship that’s slowly creating a deep wound.

Toxic Behaviors In A Friendship And How To Address Them

1. Unfair Expectations– A huge frustration in a friendship is when the friend holds you to expectations they don’t hold themselves to. Often, this will look like them asking things of you they won’t do themselves. Whether it’s expecting you to always answer the phone when they’re in need but have no problem with sending you to voicemail. Or, they expect you to do things with a sense of urgency but when it’s their turn they take all the time in the world. It may go a little deeper as well, where the friend has no problem questioning your choices or speaks to you harshly, but rejects any sort of talk about their choices and are very quick to bring up the tone in your voice. These types of friends lack the maturity of self-awareness and these unfair standards have roots in selfishness. 

Scripture calls you to love your neighbor as yourself. While this can be displayed in many ways, one of the ways in friendships is when your friend holds themselves to the same standard they hold you to.

Mark 12:31 says, “The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”

2. Misaligned Boundaries– One of the greatest tools you have to ensure a healthy friendship is healthy boundaries. These guidelines help everyone involved and the only time sin can enter a relationship is when the boundaries become misaligned. In the sense of friendship, people who struggle with boundary issues tend to hop around. Their circle of friends and community groups changes frequently. This type of friend will often make comments about parts of your life they have no place or position to comment on. Whether it’s your marriage, your parenting style, certain life decisions. Specific parts of your life are reserved for your spouse only and friends with misaligned boundaries can’t see that line and cross it often. Stepping into parts of your life that you never invited them into, or pushing that line even further. There should be times where you confide in your friends, however, someone with boundary issues will take that as an open invitation and find ways to use that vulnerability against you. With boundary issues, friends can take from you what is not theirs to take, manipulate situations, and invade personal spaces and situations. 

Scripture calls you to avoid corrupt lifestyles and the people who choose to live that way. Their paths don’t have biblical boundaries and the thorns in their life will ultimately affect whoever gets too close. In Godly friendships, boundaries are expected and respected.

Proverbs 22:5 says, “Corrupt people walk a thorny, treacherous road; whoever values life will avoid it”

3. Emotionally Led– Let me start off by encouraging you how emotions are not a bad thing. Let me say it louder for the people in the back, emotions in and of themselves are not bad and shouldn’t be avoided. God created emotions and we see Jesus expressing these emotions regularly. When you have a friend who lacks emotional maturity and doesn’t allow the Holy Spirit to guide them, you’re left often guessing how to handle them day-to-day. There’s a walking on eggshell environment and the unstable person ends up leading the relationship if the person on the receiving end doesn’t know how to handle it. These friends place their emotions above everyone else. Their viewpoints, attitude, and responses are all centered around how they feel. Unfortunately, these friends don’t have the maturity to understand others and lack compassion and gentleness. Never knowing where you stand with someone leaves you exhausted and often walking away feeling misunderstood. These friends tend to be verbally abusive because they cannot understand the depths of their words.

Scripture calls us to live with self-control. Having self-control over our emotions is freeing because you can express each emotion in the way God designed them to be used. In a biblical friendship, there is safety knowing emotions are welcomed because they are Holy Spirit led.

Proverbs 25:28 says, “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.”

4. Closed Off– What people share and whom they share it with varies from person to person, relationship to relationship. There are times and places for transparency and should always be paired with wisdom and discernment. Closed off people keep others at an arms distance for a few reasons. Someone in the past could have deeply hurt them and they’re trying to protect themself. Or being vulnerable was never displayed for them. While those are understandable reasons, I’m specifically talking about friends who refuse to let you in. Keeping most so far away they’re often labeled mysterious. Closed off people are hiding something and typically what they’re hiding is sin. People will go to great lengths to keep their sin hidden so they have the freedom to keep on sinning. These friends will never cultivate a lasting relationship because they will go to great lengths to create negative attention on you to keep themselves hidden.

Scripture encourages us to use our testimony to point others to Christ, to take our sin to Jesus, seek forgiveness, and flee from all temptation. We see the early church build community with one another by sharing life with each other. Creating unity cannot happen with secrets and healthy friendships welcome transparency.

Proverbs 28:13 says, “Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.”

5. Masked Jealousy– Earlier I mentioned there are toxic behaviors that go unnoticed. So, you may be surprised to see jealousy on the list. People absolutely get jealous of material items and that’s what we largely associate jealousy with. However, masked jealousy forms for much deeper things. Your marriage, other friendships, the favor of God on your life, your calling, etc. are plenty of reasons for masked jealousy to creep into a friendship. Someone who is facing loneliness can poke fun at your areas of companionship. Friends struggling with their identity will insult your identity in Christ. Those desiring more for themselves and who have grown frustrated can make passive-aggressive comments towards the things that make your life full. It’s often shown through the words your friends speak. It will shine a light on the exact thing they’re jealous of and it’s done with a tone of aggression, sarcasm, or passive-aggressive insults.

Scripture calls us to celebrate one another which means to have genuine joyfulness, compassion, and empathy. Jealous friends will envy your reasons for rejoicing and will find joy in your pain where biblical friendships will rejoice with you and weep with you.

Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.”

What To Do Now?

When it came to my friend I mentioned earlier in this post, I had to decide if this behavior was something I deemed acceptable in the friendship. After spending some time in prayer, the Holy Spirit showed me how people’s intentions are often known by their words. If the person’s words are often inflicting pain, more than likely that was the intention. I also felt led to have a conversation with this friend. After approaching her about how she was treating me, her response was less than comforting. Excuses, yelling and interrupting followed. I sat quietly listening to someone I considered a close friend continue to treat me in a hurtful manner and decided then I needed to create distance in the relationship. 

When you’re in a friendship where you’ve seen and felt toxic behaviors, there’s a simple way to manage it. I want to encourage you to spend time in prayer and following the guidance of the Holy Spirit. There will be times where the Holy Spirit will lead you to a place of few words or keeping silent (Proverbs 17:27). However, there will be times with the Holy Spirit will lead you to the position to speak (Proverbs 15:1-2). So, speak in a way scripture instructs us to, with bravery, gentleness, and in a loving manner. Then, take a deep breath and say, “What you said/did was hurtful to me.” You will find out everything you need to know by the way they respond. 

Friend, don’t believe the lie that there are no godly women capable of biblical friendship. Some women will love you, think highly of you, and want to be a part of your life.  They will be some of your biggest cheerleaders and can be closer to you than a sister. I want to encourage you to pray for those friends. Some of my closest friends weren’t the most charismatic in the room nor were they quick to make conversations with me. Some of them happened and grew over time. And before I knew it, I would be sitting across from them thinking how much I enjoy my time with them, how I feel safe, and I walk away feeling closer to Christ. When someone is constantly hurting you, they’re not a friend. That person has deep emotional wounds and they need to be healed. So, pray for them and love them from a safe distance.

Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

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I met Jesus when I was 14 years old. My brother invited me to church with him, I went, listened, and was given a Bible at the end of the service. ••••
I remember coming home and sitting on my bed with my new Bible in my hand. I sat there thinking of everything I was told that night and how it reminded me of everything I was taught when I was a little girl. ••••
After sitting there for awhile, I prayed for the very first time. Out loud I said, “OK God, if you are who they say you are, then why would you send your son to die for me, why wouldn’t you just die for me?”
••••
Immediately, and when I say immediately I truly mean with no hesitation a thought came into my mind. I heard, “Doesn’t a parent love their child so much that they would die for them? I love you so much more then that, that I would allow my child to die for YOU.”
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I knew the thought that had entered my mind was not from me. I knew it was God speaking directly to me. Since that day, I’ve followed Jesus, learning more about Him, and have dedicated my life to sharing about eternal life through Christ and all the goodness He is. ••••
The world will tell you religion is all about rules and what not to do. Can I personally tell you, that is not true. Following Jesus has given me freedom to truly live. I GET to do things because of Jesus. ••••
I get to love others because Jesus taught me how to love. 
I get to give to others because Jesus has given so much to me. 
I get to truly forgive because Jesus forgave me. 
I get to heal from the hurts life has thrown at me because Jesus has healed me. 
I get to live a life full of JOY because joy comes from Jesus! 
And sooo much more! ••••
My prayer for you is to passionately serve Jesus, have eternal life through Him, and to truly experience what is feels to live a life of freedom.
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I spent a semester in Israel during my college yea I spent a semester in Israel during my college years @seuniversity. It was two months after James and I got married so, our first few months as a married couple were spent walking the same streets of Jesus. To say it was a cool experience would be an understatement. •••••••
During my time in Israel there were two moments that took my breath away. One of those moments was being in the literally prison hole that Jesus stayed in the night before He died. •••••••
Historical sites are given a grading scale. An A site is “this is for sure the site that XYZ took place.” An B site is “XYZ took place here OR there” And a C site is “XYZ took place somewhere in this region.” •••••••
Jesus holding cell is an A site. •••••••
I stood in the prison with my fellow students and professor and his family. We sang the hymn - “I Have Decided To Follow Jesus.” It was the only time there I wept like a baby. Snot and all haha! •••••••
But man, to be where your savior was knowing what was to come and He chose to do it anyways. I’ve never felt more love in that moment then I have in my entire life. ••••••••
So today, my prayer is for you to feel that same love. To know Jesus died today for YOU and that He came back for YOU! You are His chosen child. •
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•

So, I want to serve you and since i cannot physically be there with you, I can pray for you. How can I be praying for you today?
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I posted last night how I would be sharing with yo I posted last night how I would be sharing with you today what the beginning of 2020 held for my family which caused me to take a pause on writing. •
•

In January we lost my sweet mother-in-law very suddenly. It was a shock to us all and has taken us a bit to wrap our minds around. •
•

In addition to the loss of my mother-in-law, we’ve been navigating some health struggles. Now, with everything going on in our world, I can say it’s def been a year so far. •
•

But, God is good. If it’s not good- then it doesn’t come from God. The enemy is very real but nothing to fear because our God is bigger. •
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So, Today, I want to take a moment to share with you what losing my sweet mother-in-law has taught me. It’s something we can all learn from and I hope it blesses you and encourages you. •
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Hi, friend. I know it’s been awhile and I have Hi, friend. 
I know it’s been awhile and I have a post going up tomorrow that explains what the beginning of 2020 has held for myself and my family. 
But, I wanted to get one here tonight to share something that has been on my heart. 
You cannot turn on the TV or pick up your phone without the word “COVID-19” blaring at you. While it’s wise to be informed, these are times many can become anxious, full of fear, and worry. 
Friend, this is our time. And what I mean by that, it’s the Church body’s time. It’s our time to rise up and praise the name of Jesus louder then any other name or word. 
Can I remind you that Jesus conquered every sickness and disease! 
Every. Single. One. 
When He died on that cross. 
And He rose again. 
There are a lot of different beliefs on healing, authority, and what role it plays in our life today. I want to encourage you to seek Jesus through His word and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you to His truth. 
When you find yourself reading this, do me a favor and pause. Look up Psalm 91. Read it, listen to it on repeat on the Bible app, and dwell in the presence of God. 
And then, wake up tomorrow knowing you are a child of the most high King- who rescues you from every attack of the enemy, who protects you from deadly diseases, who is covering you with His feathers and providing you shelter. 
I love you, friend. I’m praying for you.
It's 2020 and with a New Year comes a new FREEBIE! It's 2020 and with a New Year comes a new FREEBIE!
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•
•
🎉🎉🎉
•
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As a THANK YOU for being here AND being an email subscriber you will receive Loving The Life You Live E-Book with a printable Manifesto for FREE!
•
•
•
I've spent the past few months writing on 9 simple truths to knowing who you are in Christ. •
•
•
If you’ve been a follower of Jesus for some time, my hope is this book will be a reminder of God’s truth on who He says you are in His eyes. •
•
•
If you're new in your relationship with Christ or are still trying to figure it out and need a little more guidance on finding out who you’re  created to be, this book will be perfect for you. •
•
•
I pray this mini e-book will be an encouragement to your heart and for it to be a tool you use while you share the truths of Jesus with those around you. •
•
•
If you’re already subscribed, check your inbox!
•
•
•
If you're not a subscriber, click the LINK IN BIO and enter your email address.
Everyone is sharing their top 9 photos from 2019 b Everyone is sharing their top 9 photos from 2019 but I’m going to share my number one photo for this year. This photo represents an answer to prayer in my life and reminds me of the love and faithfulness of my Savior. •
•
•

My family and I just got back from spending a week in South Carolina for Christmas with my parents. •
•
•

Today was a day full of unpacking, cleaning, grocery shopping, and getting back into our normal routine. •
•
•

But, this morning while everyone slept I spent time praying and drinking some coffee. I have so many ideas, goals, and big dreams for my blog and this ministry. •
•
•

I thought about my reader who has used my blog posts to build a women’s ministry curriculum for her neighboring village in western part of Kenya. •
•
•

I thought about my reader in Papua New Guinea who is new in her faith walk and a simple google search looking for more of God’s word led her to my site. •
•
•

I thought about my reader who leads her local church with her husband here is the USA and was looking for a fellow female Christian to connect with and have a space to talk about things she can’t with those around her. •
•
•

I thought about my reader who was diagnosed with a life altering illness and found my site while searching for scripture on healing. •
•
•

I thought about you. The one who has visited and read time and time again. Who has listened while I shared from the deep parts of my heart on the struggles, the wins, the rejections, and the answered prayers of my life. Who has sent encouraging messages, shared feelings, and prayers. Who has in turn opened up to me and shared from the depths of their heart. •
•
•

As you know, I refer to my readers as ‘friend’ and that’s because a friend shows up, listens, encourages, shares, and prays. So, thank you. Thank you for being a friend. 
I’m looking forward to this new year with you as I share more of what God continues to lay on my heart. I’ll continue to look forward to hear from you as we do this journey of life together. •
•
•

Love you friend.
Hi, friend. • • • I’ve been taking things Hi, friend. •
•
•
I’ve been taking things slow over here to enjoy as much of this baby season as humanly possible. Getting to hold and kiss Colton everyday, all day long is a huge blessing I don’t want to take for granted. •
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Because of that, my writing and speaking have been moving slower. I’ve had moments where I’ve shared with James the tug and pull I feel everyday, each week. There’s so many things I want to be doing, creating, sharing but I have to pick and choose right now. •
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Tonight, I was feeding Colton before putting him to bed. When he was done with his bottle I sat it down but kept holding him while finishing a tv show. I heard him cooing and I look down and this precious face was staring up at me with the sweetest smile. •
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Pure joy and love on his face. •
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Friend, here’s your friendly reminder to keep on praying and believing that God has already won the battle, flattened the mountain, and straightened your path. •
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After 2 and 1/2 years of barrenness and praying for this beautiful baby, my Heavenly Father so lovingly answered my prayer with the sweetest boy. •
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I feel closer to Jesus because I pressed into Him during my waiting season and I want the same for you. •
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Press in. •
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And when your prayer is answered: enjoy. every. part. of. it. •
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Even if that means other things need to move slower. •
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Love you, friend. ❤️
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