Do you surround yourself with people who believe in you more than you believe in yourself?
I have been overwhelmed with love and support from those close to me as I walk this journey of being a writer. When I announced I was releasing a devotional, I could not get over the kind and loving words people were sending my way. They were heartfelt and genuine.
I reached out to a friend to update her on changes that will be happening in my life. Being the supportive friend she is, she was practically screaming and hugging me through the phone. I literally said, “This is why I choose to be your friend. I know that whenever I call you, I can count on you being just as excited for me, if not more.”
I have another friend who is working countless hours for me and whenever I thank her for all her work, she reminds me how much she believes in me and my calling.
A different friend encouraged me for always going after my dreams. She remembered how I’ve always wanted to write and encouraged me in that.
I went to bed the other night thanking God for all the loving, supportive, and meaningful friendships that I have in my life. He then reminded me of a time in my life where that wasn’t always the case.
Not everyone wants the best for you and not everyone is genuinely excited when good things happen to you. A mentor once told me, “Heather, it is easy to feel bad for someone when they are going through a tough time. It doesn’t take a deep rooted person to ‘feel bad.’ It is when you go through seasons of blessings that your true friends will show. Those are the kinds people you want to be friends with. They have roots you can grow deep with.”
Once I went to James and asked him if he thinks my friends care about me and want me to succeed. He said two people’s name. two.
I am sure you have felt this way as well. Maybe you are currently experiencing this and you want friends who care about you just as much as you care about them.
When I was tired from the lack of supportive friends, I prayed and asked God to weed out the bad friendships and bring in the great ones. It was a tough season because friends changed and grew apart, but I am on the other side now and it has been worth it. I have the friendships that I prayed for- the deep rooted kind.
I learned some lessons during this time that I want to share with you:
- Deep rooted friendships are key- like my mentor said, friends who are joyful for you during seasons of blessing are the people you should seek friendship with.
- Godly friendships do exist- there are people who care about their friends just as much as you do. There are people who will care about you and the friendship you offer and value that.
- God honors His word- friendships are a biblical relationship. God will bring people into your life who believe in you and your calling.
- You get to choose the company you keep, so choose wisely- ask God to give you discernment on friendships. Ask for friends to grow deep with.
I am praying that God surrounds you with deep rooted and joyful relationships. I also pray for your heart to be protected when God starts the weeding process. You are going places, so take those who want to go with you along for the ride.
If you haven’t heard, November 1st is when my first devotional Expecting God to Move will be released. There is a wait list to stay up to date!
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