Growing up I remember rushing home to then get on the phone and call all my friends. Every night I would spent at least an hour chatting with my closest friends. When James and I spent a year long distance while dating, we talked on the phone every day. It was so much fun to just sit and talk about anything and everything.
As I got older, I didn’t really talk on the phone to friends. I would chat on the phone with family members, especially when I lived across the country. But, calling friends became texting friends. I love to text, it’s super fast and simple. I can multi task while texting and carry on multiple conversations. However, it is not the same as talking over the phone.
This past year I have grown close to a friend who has small children like me and literally lives right around the corner from me. We have a deep bond and both are super busy. We make efforts to hang out, have family dinners, host a girls night at our houses, etc. But what I love the most about this friend and our friendship is- we talk on the phone regularly. At least once a week to once every other week we will just sit and talk. Yes, we have children interrupting us and often times our conversation pauses when one of us says, “Let me deal with this, I will call you right back.” But, we call each other back and pick up where we left off. We will talk about our walk with the Lord and what has been on our hearts lately. We take that time to listen to each other and be there through life’s ups and downs. Since it has been such a long time since I have talked on the phone like this, I have grown to love that time all over again, like I did when I was younger.
Talking on the phone makes you really listen to what the person is saying. It can create a conversation with less distractions and really helps cultivate a deep friendship. Also, when you have children, sometimes, well a lot of times, it’s just easier to stay home. It tends to be easier to put on a movie while I call a friend. Play dates are fun, but also a lot of work. Just being honest here 😉
If someone would have told me a year or two ago to take time and talk to friends over the phone, I would have laughed and said that I don’t have time to just sit and talk. But now that I have had a friend who makes that time for herself and has shown me to do the same- I love it. I love clearing my mind and it has become relaxing. Also, I always feel so loved and encouraged when I get off the phone with my friend.
This week, set one hour aside and call a friend. Share what has been going on in your life and listen when they share theirs. Allow yourself to have that time. You will thank me.