Last week I talked about how people can care for the orphans without fostering or adopting since not all individuals/families are capable of opening their home. I encouraged to help even if the person says they don’t need it
Well today, I want to talk to that person. The person who says they don’t need the help or should I say, to the person who won’t admit that they need help.
It is OK to say you need help. It is OK to ask for help. Maybe you are great with time management and you don’t need your house clean but you need help with school clothes. Maybe you are blessed financially but you need someone to come do your dishes and sweep your floors. Maybe you are blessed with great time management and finances but you are tired and would just like one morning to sleep. Maybe you are great with all of the above but you just need someone to sit with and talk to. Or, you are all of the above.
My support system makes me feel like I am not in this alone. The transition of M moving to Ohio and us merging our family together once again has been nothing but a blessing and joyful. That doesn’t mean there hasn’t been hard moments or things come up but what it does mean is when I have had those rough moments I have called people in my support system and leaned on them when I needed it. I have cried, asked advice, and just talked through my feelings. That has helped me feel that those rough moments were just moments. It prevented those moments from becoming the way of life.
There are plenty of groups out there where fellow parents of foster/adopted children come together to support each other. If you find yourself in a community where there is not something like that, start one! Don’t worry about the details, just nailing down a monthly date and time to get parents together will help kick start something. If there are others in your town who have not adopted or fostered there are plenty of online community groups of fellow parents who are waiting for you to open up and share about your life. They are inviting and welcoming.
We are not meant to go through life alone, even though some people do try. The old saying “It takes a village…” is on point.
Has there been times in your life where you needed a support system? What did you do if you had one, and what did you do if you didn’t? I would love to hear.